There are moments as a mother, when I am far from perfect. Moments when emotions overtook my logical brain. Moments when I made mistakes. As humans, it is TOUGH to face up to our shortcomings and share openly of our Mom failures but I’m sharing this personal story to hopefully reach out to YOU, a work-in-progress mummy who is working hard towards being master of your emotions. To demonstrate that we are all works in progress. At the same time, it is possible to repair ruptures in our parent-child relationships even as we are working towards it.
“All feelings are acceptable , All wishes are acceptable.Not all actions and behaviours are acceptable” - Dr John Gottman
Research by Dr. John Gottman shows that emotional awareness and the ability to manage feelings will determine how successful and happy our children are throughout life, even more than their IQ. Being an Emotion Coach to our kids has positive and long-lasting effects, providing a buffer for the complexities of life that allows them to be more confident, intelligent, and well-rounded individuals.
When you are focused on stressing your child while engaging him in guided play towards a certain outcome or meeting your expectations, you tend to become impatient and frustrated and your child can sense that as well. As parents, we have to keep in mind that it is the process of play that truly matters, and not the outcomes of our own expectations. It doesn’t matter if your child can't count now, the fact that you are exposing him to fun activities will build on his knowledge and he will get there one day!
Did you know that 90% of a child’s brain development happens before age 5? A robust body of research has confirmed that magic in everyday moments - showing affection, comforting, and playing with children - helps build strong healthy brains. The experiences a child has during this time will shape the architecture of her brain and build the connections that allow her to develop lifelong skills like problem-solving, communication, self-control, and relationship building. Read on for 5 tips that you can use to boost healthy brain development in your child!
As our toddlers are currently full swing into the “terrible twos” (we prefer to see it as "terrific twos"), there are occasions when we’ve been left feeling drained, frustrated and helpless on how to manage their behaviours. In this post, we discuss 7 challenging toddler behaviours which all parents of 2-3 year olds can probably relate to, why they happen and some suggested strategies we use to manage them!
It reminded us that we must use love and compassion to help our vulnerable children instead of blaming them for challenging behaviours.
You are trying to get your toddler to follow your instructions, but instead of complying, he says “NO!” and it soon escalated into a screaming/crying tantrum. Does this sound familiar? As mums ourselves, we’ve been there! Many of us might succumb to shouting back at them or snap and tell them to stop screaming, but will they listen? Most likely not! However, our kids are not intentionally being "terrible", it is just that we might not be talking to them in ways that they'll listen! In this post, we share our favourite tips and techniques that you can use to communicate to your kids. We don’t claim to be experts, but are regular moms striving to implement these tips in our daily communication with our kids as well!
One of the greatest gifts we can give our children is to cultivate the love of books. Both of us grew up with books being a great part of our lives and we remember sitting all day on the couch, finishing a book from front to back, enthralled by the stories. We knew that reading has many benefits but it wasn’t until recent years that scientists have proven reading rewires our brain and improves intelligence. Reading helps language skills, social & emotional development and improves attention span and focus amongst other benefits. And, it all starts from your child’s foundational years. Reading out loud to your kids through their early childhood and early schooling inspires them to become frequent readers in future years.